Send questions for Cecil Adams to: cecil straightdope. Your direct line to thousands of the smartest, hippest people on the planet, plus a few total dipsticks. I recently joined match. I am looking for some advice on how to say "No thanks" -- politely. Winks you can safely ignore. When I receive an e-mail from someone I'm not interested in, I thank them for their e-mail, tell them "sorry, but I'm not interested", and wish them well.
Unfortunately, you seem to be the only one aware of that as you wake up to an after-the-first-date good morning text. Well, this is awkward…. Here are 5 ideas to help you close this deal out and move onto the next. But, you MUST stick with it and be consistent. Unfortunately, not everyone speaks Universe, so a small percentage of people will continue to text long past the point of awkwardness. In those cases, move onto the next option…. It turns out we both live in the same neighborhood, have the same taste in music, and hate cats.
I say this because I get winks from men who are not only not in the same area, but are not in the same state or country. This is like fishing with a net, verses the more skill-based fly fishing — they are just seeing who will respond to their broad contacts. On one level, I admire their boldness.
I know it's not easy. In fact, sometimes it can be so tough to say no that you end up giving in and just saying yes. It's human nature - we want to be agreeable, we want to be liked, and we want to be kind. So how do you say no, no, no all the time without being or feeling like a jerk?