Jun 17, Recovery News 0 comments. You may be involved with someone who is in the beginning stages of alcoholism. You have a gut feeling that they may have a problem with alcohol, but there is nothing you can say because the person is exhibiting a few symptoms of alcohol addiction. Experts believe that alcoholism is a progressive disease. When alcoholic continues to drink, the symptoms become more apparent, until it is quite clear to almost everyone that they have a drinking problem. Their drinking problem increases over a long period of time.
When I entered rehab at 20 years old, one of the first thoughts to cross my mind was literally, "Great. Now I can only date sober guys. It was overly dramatic, but I believed it. I'd been through a lot in the year prior, and had convinced myself that no one but another alcoholic would believe or understand my struggle and accept me. In the two years before entering rehab, I'd dug myself a deep hole.
The Dos and Don’ts of Dating a Recovering Alcoholic or Addict
As someone who coaches others in relationships I realize that navigating the dating scene can be difficult enough. Getting to know someone in the early stages of a relationship takes time, observation, and trial and error. When you couple this with trying to determine if the person you are dating has a drinking problem, it can make things even more difficult. Binge drinking — having five or more drinks for men; four or more for women — increases the risks for type 2 diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure and other serious conditions. Drinking has become a central part of the social scene, so someone who is a drinker can often hide their drinking habit.
Being in a relationship with an alcoholic is perhaps the second worst thing after being an alcoholic yourself. It seems you are dealing with a person with two faces, who when sober, seems genuinely repentant but when under the influence of alcohol, is a stranger giving way to self-pity, denial or even aggression. So if you have just found out that the person you are dating is an alcoholic or your partner has become one, here are a few things to keep in mind.